Why should you see each other before the wedding?

Some statistics: (Ok, so I estimated these numbers - but that's why I'm a photographer and not a statistician)

90% of the couples I meet with say they refuse to see each other before the ceremony.

99% end up changing their minds, and doing it.

100% of my couples who see each before the wedding (including those who refused to in the beginning but changed their minds) say they are so glad they did it this way and wouldn't do it any other way!

Why? Because it just makes sense! And here's why....

-One of the biggest turn offs to seeing each other before the wedding is losing that moment when the groom sees his bride for the first time. What you don't realize is that the nerves of the couple are so extreme, it's easy to miss that moment for each of them during the ceremony. Plus, you are distracted by the hundreds of people who came to see you get married. You are also sharing that intimate moment of seeing your bride/groom on the day of the wedding with hundreds of guests. The moment is much sweeter when it's just the two of you, alone, when the nerves are gone and the guests are absent.

-You get to spend your wedding DAY with each other, not just the hour for the ceremony and the couple hours for the reception (which you will barely see each other at - trust me! You invited guests for a reason!) You will have many memories of the hours you spent together before the craziness of the wedding began!

-Your make-up, hair, dress, tux, everything, is in much better shape because it's all freshly done.

-You won't keep your guests waiting as you get pictures done.

-Your nerves will be much more calmed during the day and for the ceremony (You may even remember your vows at the alter!) :)

-You have more time for more fun, creative shots as well as more locations. Your pictures will not be rushed and you will have many more pictures.


I completely respect all decisions to see or not see each other before the wedding. It is your day and should be done the way you want to do it! I just wanted to dispel the myths that it's bad luck to see each other before the wedding. It can be so much sweeter!

If any of my former couples are reading this - please feel free to write a comment and give your feedback and personal opinion towards this! Thank you!